3 Simple Steps to Check if Your Kisses Are Hot or Not

Think you’re a good kisser? Think again…according to experts your kissing could need some work. After researching multiple experts and surveys this is what I came up with.

First, there are many types of kisses. The Kama Sutra has more than 30 different types, but for this conversation we are only focusing on one. The first kiss. The passionate kiss. And possibly the second time. And the third time. And the fourth. 

According to psychologist Nikki Martinez, in a Bustle interview she says, "The best way to kiss someone is a combination of soft, natural lips with a little tongue.” I couldn’t agree more. She worded it perfectly! Let me repeat that for you, the BEST way to passionately kiss is 

‘soft, natural lips with a little tongue.’

Ok so here is the breakdown into steps for you to test if you’re a good kisser. If you’re missing these steps in your own kissing, then maybe it’s time to rethink how you’re kissing. It’s not sex, so it should be much easier to fix. Sex has so many moving parts but kissing is simply lips and tongue. 

1. Are your lips relaxed? 

Making sure your lips aren’t tight so they can caress your partners lips. It’s difficult to ‘play’ with someone’s lips if they are tight. Relaxed also does not mean dead. Don’t just let them hang. They need to be an active participant in the kissing act. They need to move slowly and freely along your partners lips. 

2. Are you using your tongue? 

This can be tricky. Too much tongue can leave your partner feeling like they’re being gagged. It can also cause too much saliva and drown your partner. Your tongues should gently massage each other for a few seconds before going back to the soft gentle lip kisses. Which brings me to the last point.

3. Are you alternating lips and tongue usage?

Balance is key here. A few soft, sweet lip kisses paired with a few seconds of tongue massaging, and maybe a lip nibble or a gentle suck. And repeat. This allows you time to swallow so you aren’t over producing saliva and drowning your partner in spit. Eww. 

Simple. Three simple steps to check if your kisses are hot or not.

Until next time,

Keep dating smarter x